It is a “turn off” – not a “turn on” 😉

Hi❣ It’s so nice to see you,- like always 😊 I hope all is fine with you 🧡

I’m fine 😊,- I just haven’t had the time to write to much this week 😔. It has been very busy at work this week, and also the boys that’s slowly moving in, at least all their things and stuffs, at the moment. Some thing that’s create some “disturbances” in my daily routines. And on tomorrow the boys them self are moving in as well, for real, not just all their stuff 😊. For not a to long period, I hope 😊 I do feel I’m putting my life a bit “on hold” now, or not all of my life, but some parts. But,- I think my son and his friend feel a bit the same way. They also do put their life “on hold” when their living here as well 😊. But its good to be able to help them with what I can help them with,- a place to stay, sleep and eat for a while 💛.

And I have actually heard from this American man I did meet two summers ago, and I did have a “crush on” as well 🙄. But I’m not sure what I feel about to hear from him again. I was a bit surprised that he texted me, but I didn’t feel “overwhelmed” of happiness, not of sadness either 😅. I didn’t feel to much actually, and I’m not sure if I want to see him again either. He wants to see me again,- but I think it is just for sex, and I’m really not “there” with him anymore for different reasons.

I did like him very much,- but I haven’t given him to many thoughts since September last year. Its also something that’s called “keep it warm if you want it” ,- and I haven’t heard from him since September …. so I’m not so “warm” anymore 😉. And also when I think about him now I have two very different expressions of him, and also a bit mixed feelings too. The first summer when I met him, in 2018, he was so sweet, closely like a gentleman. And we actually had a very nice time together, also in the sensual area. But last year, both in January and last summer after he did movied to Spain he was more “busy” with talking “dirty” to me and “brage” about his “big banana” 🍌. I don’t like that. What’s the point in that away? And his “banana”,- well,- if you don’t know how to use it, or just use it for your own satisfaction,- it’s actually not very much to brage about. The size has not very much to do about the satisfaction if the only focus is to satisfy him self.

“Dirty talk”,- I don’t mind as long as I’m in a relationship, and it is a natural part of the intimacy in the relation. But,- we, the American man and me, was not in a relationship, or “close” to each other in “that kind of way”, only during the summer of 2018. Well,- I did think we had “something going on”, but obviously we hadn’t 😅. And from men I don’t know or are intimat related to, – then this “dirty talk” it’s just became a really big “turn off” to be honest. And,- yes it’s also about the way the “dirty talk” is done. It is so simple and a so big “turn off” 🙄. And this photos of their dick. What’s the point of that? 🤔

This American man is not the only man over 40 (he is 51, will be 52 this summer), that obviously think or believe that photos of their dicks and a bit dirty talk is a serious big “turn on” for a woman. But it’s not, not for me and not for many other women in my age either. But of course there’s exceptions like there are in every area in life.

I just wonder why, specially for men in the age over 40- 45 “behave” like this? And believe that sending photos of their dick, and write things like “fuck you hard ….bla bla bla” are a big “turn on” 🤔. Shouldn’t men in this age know a bit better? 🤔 For the first of all it’s boring, and it’s actually not even close to erotic or sensual. And it’s a serious “turn off”. Did I mention that? 😅 Most of us mature women like it “hot” and both erotic and sensual. And we do like sweet and sensual compliments. Not all, like I mention, – it’s always exceptions.

But all in all,- It’s nothing hot, sensual or erotic with a photo of a dick or sentences like “fuck you hard”, “my big dick” and more “bla bla bla” 🙄. Because I do just read a lots of boring “bla bla bla” when I get textes like that,- and sorry,- the photos are boring too. Not very much mysterious about them at all. Or to get “hot” by 🙄.

I know a man and his “banana” are buddies, very good buddies actually, probably best friends, and have a “relations” to each other only a man can understand. Some even give their “banana” a name, and also have a “chat up” with their “banana” too 😊. And all that’s fine, I don’t mind, it’s their “banana”, their buddy. But I just don’t understand that a mature man in the age over 40, a man that has a tiny bit life experiences in different areas in life, also the erotic and sensual one should known better then think it’s a big “turn on” to send photos of their “banana” here and there and every where, and that talk like “fuck you hard” it’s “turn in”. It is a actually not a “deal breaker” to be honest 😅. This kind of “stuff” does not makes a mature women “go bananas” after a man 🤔. Of course this is not all men that are like this, you know its always “exceptions, exeptions”,- but many men behave like this, and special in the age from 40- 45 and up,- and maybe I see it and get this a bit more because I’m single? I don’t know. But I do know that it doesn’t give me very much at all. This American man is not the first and only one that have send me some “smashing” photos and some “dirty talk”,- but it hasn’t the attractive effect they obviously think it has 😅. Its the opposite, actually.

And it’s a bit much focus “on him” all the time. His dick, his fucking. Come on, man! A mature woman like to get some nice compliments. That’s a bit more “turn on” actually. Write something nice, erotic, sensual with a fine touch of mystique. Then you actually have a bit better chance to get a mature woman “turned on” 😉. When it’s “all about you” you won’t get to much any way 😉.

So why does men in this ages behave like this? Think that this kind of stuff “turn on” a woman? Do they really know women so little? Or is it a kind of a stressing point in their age? A kind of their own “menopause”- status that’s “shows up”? A need to show that they still “can”? I haven’t the answers,- and I know it will be a couple of different answers too on my questions as well. But all in all,- it’s actually not a very much attractive behaviour. We mature women, in general, know what we “want in the bed” and what’s turns us on, and we know our body a bit more then men think and have in mind 😉. A photo if the dick is a “turn off” as well as some simple dirty talk is. For most women in my age, in general. We want a bit more erotic and sensual stuff,- not porn. And BTW,- sex in the “real life” is actually not like a porn movie, even some seems to believe that too 😅. It’s to much acrobatic stuff in a movie like that, and its actually not possible to “perform” all of those various acrobatic exercises AND at the same time actually enjoy the actual sexual act 😅 😉.

Well,- this American man is just one example of a “turn off” and not a “turn on”. But he is not the only one that have this kind of behaviour when it comes to the sexual area in life. This kind of “behaviour” just don’t have the “function” a man think it has 😉.

If I’m going to met this American man again? I don’t know. Like I did mention I have two very different experiences with him,- but I didn’t like the lasts ones very much. And it hasn’t been very much try to “turn me on” from him lately either, “keep me warm” with a bit contact now and then,- and then suddenly he think a photo and a bit dirty talk will make me “goes bananas” for him? Nope,- it’s actually a bit opposite. So we see what I’m doing next week,- if I met him or not. If I met him it’s because of the “good memories” two years ago. And a tiny wish that he is like that,- but I’m not sure he is 😉.

Well,- this was just some thoughts about “turn off” and “turn on” in general and in a very short summary. Its actually much more to write about in this area, but I leave that for an other day 😊.

I wish you a great day or evening wherever in the world you 🧡. Thank you so much for dropping by my blog today too 🧡.

See you soon 😊.

To “turn off” a mature woman in general is so easy as blowing out a candle 😉. And some “banana- photos” and “dirty talk” actually “turn off” it all even faster. Men in the age from 40- 45 should know a bit better then that, I thought,- and also how to actually “turn on” a mature woman 😉.